We all need help sometimes....
It seems to be an indication of the stresses and strains of modern day life, that many of us today find ourselves in need of emotional or psychological help to make sense of our internal and external worlds.
Even those who appear to be the strongest, most confident people in society, will struggle at some point with feeling stuck, anxious, or overwhelmed, experiencing depressive episodes, fears and phobias, obsessions and compulsions, or other ways that indicate all is not right in our minds or the way we are approaching our life.
You've taken the first step by looking for someone professional and experienced to help you let go of negative emotions, thoughts, beliefs and the memories that caused them.
I hope that you will find me genuine, compassionate, non-judgemental and honest. I can demonstrate evidence of relevant qualifications, membership of professional bodies governing safe, ethical practice and of course, copious amounts of experience in helping people like yourself feel better. Check out my reviews on yell.com and google evidencing a 5 star experience by clients.
How I work......
I use a mixture of self-empowering coaching, solutions focused counselling and holistic compassionate psychotherapy to help you achieve the mindset you desire. In a comfortable, quiet and relaxing setting, we work together in a compassionate yet focused manner. I use a range of coaching and psychological techniques which include tapping or emotional freedom technique EFT, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT, Mindfulness, Inner Child work & Self-Compassion building, Clinical Hypnotherapy, ACT therapy, EMDR, Regression to Cause to mention a few.
Why I focus on your feelings.....
My clients are aged 16 or over who are experiencing psychological problems e.g. anxiety, depression, compulsions, obsessions, sleep disturbance, stress, anger, etc and are ready to do the work to get well.
It doesn't much matter what the presenting problem is, because I believe that our current psychological and emotional problems have their origins in situations way back in our past, generally when we were young and vulnerable. Our sub-conscious mind stores all the feelings and memories we have ever experienced, including the negative ones when we felt guilt, embarrassment, humiliation, hurt, anger, and fear to name but a few. These feelings which can become emotional triggers, can lead us to create self-limiting beliefs about ourselves, others and the world we live in. These self-limiting beliefs can start to "run our show", and we can feel anxious and / or depressed as a result. These negative feelings can lead to self-sabotaging behaviours like dependency on alcohol or recreational drugs, gambling, not taking proper care of ourselves with sleep and food, obsessive compulsive behaviours, eating disorders, poor performance at work or unhealthy relationships. Often, we lose a sense of ourselves, become very critical or judgemental about ourselves and others, and feel uncomfortable in the company of other people or alone with our own feelings of inadequacy. We can simply start to feel 'not good enough" and this starts to effect every area of our lives. Self-compassion and self-acceptance work is a focus I use throughout therapy with all my clients because whether they are simply feeling unconfident or totally rejecting of themselves, they all need to return to their inner child and let some softness in to help them get well and stay well.
For example, a child age 5 is traumatised by a parent leaving and feels hurt, angry and abandoned. Because at 5 the child is not able to understand what is happening, and why the parent is leaving, they often not only feel great distress but blame themselves believing they are not lovable enough, or important enough or good enough, for the parent to stay. If they fail to process this memory properly at the time of the event, which often happens with traumatic experiences (particularly when we are most vulnerable), they may become STUCK in that memory. This leads them to to feel the initial pain of separation or abandonment whenever similar situations or 'triggers' play out in their lives (e.g. they split with a partner, a close friend moves away). And these negative feelings continue to play out (or 'trigger' strong emotional responses), until the past memory is fully explored and processed.
Under hypnosis, I use Regression to Cause or 'Floatback' technique to help my clients identify where the negative feelings and beliefs they are expereincing in the present, originate from, and once the related memories have been identified by the client's sub-conscious mind, I use EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocesing, to help my client process the unhelpful memories in a more positive way, so that the emotional charge they once held is reduced or eliminated. As a result, once self-limiting beliefs can be changed to beliefs which help the client rather than hinder them.
So regardless of whether you have an addiction, or a phobia, are suffering from stress or sleep deprivation, issues with food and eating, or having flashbacks to past traumatic events, the way I work with you is to identify what you are feeling now, tracing this to the first and related times you felt this way, and helping you to notice your negative feelings and patterns of behaviour. We then use the psychotherapeutic techniques of Regression to Cause and EMDR to release the emotional and physical feelings trapped inside your mind and body. Many of you reading this may question whether YOU will be capable of identifying the memories or may believe you already know where your negative feelings originate from. Please bear in mind that everyone I have worked with can find memories in this relaxed state, and often those memories that our conscious, rational minds arrive at, don't come up at all under hypnosis. What we think and what we feel can be two entirely different things. It is our feeling, emotional, sub-conscious mind, that tends to 'run our show' when we feel emotionally unwell, so just understanding a situation and being able to rationalise it, doesn't mean you can actually change how you feel about it.
General Information about Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis:
There are many misconceptions about hypnotherapy, hypnosis, and what these involve, so you may be interested to read the FAQs below...
The role of the Clinical Hypnotherapist is to help you make changes to your mind set through the use of hypnosis and other related therapies. My work involves helping you overcome emotional or psychological illness or addictions and as a profession, we are often able to offer a cure as opposed to simply alleviating symptoms. In fact, I regularly hear how clients have attended a variety of different mainstream therapies over many years, even decades, but unfortunately not achieved the outcomes they desired. It's not uncommon to hear "you are my last hope". I am pleased to tell you that I am able to help a large number of my clients not only achieve their outcomes and solve their problems, but provide the self-management tools and strategies to sustain them.
Hypnosis is a natural state of heightened awareness, frequently associated with relaxation, where you are able to open yourself to suggestions and can make use of your imagination to help you make positive changes in your life. These suggestions are made to your subconscious mind, which is infinitely more powerful than your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind accounts for about 90% of your mind's potential and will always 'win' over your conscious mind.
It is possible for hypnotherapists to work with both the conscious and sub-conscious mind and by doing so, enable you to make the positive changes required for a happier and more satisfying life. What I ask is that you are fully committed to making the internal changes required to address your issues, which can often require a great deal of hard work on both my part and yours. This includes carrying out the life based exercises in between therapy sessions that I set for you to do, and attending therapy until a joint decision to discharge you has been reached. I will always promote independence and self-reliance on the strategies and techniques I have taught you to use.
Remember I offer psychotherapy - CBT, Clinical Hypnotherapy, EMDR, EFT, NLP and the full range of counselling and coaching services to help my clients achieve their desired outcomes; so whatever the presenting problem I am generally able to help those committed to helping themselves.
FAQs about Hypnotherapy - Why Choose Hypnotherapy?
Hypnotherapy has been approved for use by the UK Government and the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE). The changes are MORE RAPID, EFFECTIVE and LONG-LASTING.
Much research carried out by mainstream medical practitioners and health experts, now evidences the short and longer term benefits of hypnotherapy.
In fact, in a Manchester hospital, the NHS have now created a Hypnotherapy unit to help with gastro intestinal medicine and conditions such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome.
What is Hypnosis?
A state of relaxation in which you are very aware of what is going on and are always in complete control. It feels somewhere between being asleep and being awake and is extremely relaxing and calming. A hypnotic state is sometimes referred to as ‘trance’.
Can anyone be hypnotised?
Yes, all hypnosis is self-hypnosis so if they choose to really let go and trust the process, they can access the state of trance. Once they've learned to do this, it’s easier to go into trance again in the future.
Can I be forced to do anything against my will?
No. In Hypnotherapy you are always in control and your mind chooses what it’s willing to accept.
How does it work?
Hypnotic relaxation allows the Hypnotherapist to make more direct communication with the sub-conscious mind. It therefore makes it easier to resolve the root cause of the problem by accessing feelings and emotions and past memories which may not be so accessible to the conscious mind. In addition, the mind is then more receptive to positive suggestions for change.
What happens in a Hypnotherapy session?
There are two main ways a Hypnotherapist can use Hypnotherapy - Suggestion Hypnotherapy and Analytical Hypnotherapy.
With relaxation the mind is more receptive to accepting ideas and suggestions. Positive suggestions for change are made which are more readily accepted and acted upon because it is possible to communicate more directly with the sub conscious mind.
Some analysis of the underlying cause of a problem is often helpful. When this is done using Hypnotherapy the root cause can be identified much more quickly than by any other therapeutic means. Any issues that emerge can then be worked through in a way that is most effective for the client's desired outcome.
What is self-hypnosis?
Self-hypnosis is a technique that enables a person to take themselves into a gentle hypnotic relaxation, similar to meditation. It is easy to learn and can be undertaken as part of the Hypnotherapy treatment. It can be used to help people continue with the benefits of Hypnotherapy and relaxation long after the sessions have ended. Often a recording will be available for the client to take away to continue with self-hypnosis practice. This allows the important messages to be repeated over and again to the client's mind, thus making it more likely they will quickly and effectively change their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.